I stopped working outside the home almost 10 years ago. I’ve spent my entire married life at home, cultivating my marriage, managing our home, and raising our children.
I can remember that as a little girl, I could never quite figure out what I wanted to “be” when I grew up. A teacher? Nutritionist? In business? That all sounded fine, but I couldn’t see myself in any one position for more than a few years.
No, as far back as I can remember, I just wanted to get married and have kids. I wanted to have the time to plant a garden, time to cook from scratch, time to DIY. I wanted to be a mom, and I didn’t want to feel frazzled everyday trying to keep it all together. I wanted to have time to volunteer: at school, at the PTA, at church, in the community.
I just wanted to be a housewife. But I’m a millennial and the only housewives we knew of growing up were the “desperate” or “of Atlanta” kind.
SAHM, at-home mom, homemaker: these are terms most used today, and yet, they just don’t seem to fit. I am more than “just a mom.” I’m not taking a break from my life in the world to “stay home” with my kids. I do more than simply care for my home and family.
For me, “Housewife” conjures up an image that more accurate describes what I do.
I love the Webster’s Dictionary definition of a housewife as “a married woman who is in charge of her household.” Wikipedia describes a housewife as “a woman whose work is running or managing her family’s home–caring for her children; buying, cooking, and storing food for the family; buying goods that the family needs in everyday life; housekeeping and maintaining the home…”
Some definitions include “supporting her family and community through community service work, volunteering and general parenting.”
That’s it! That’s what we do!
As modern housewives, we care for, teach and mentor our children, create a haven for our families to return to after a long day, maintain our homes, provide nourishing food for our families, and handle our day-to-day needs.
We manage our finances, plan our weeks and prepare for our future. We strengthen our communities, volunteer at our churches and schools, and work side jobs or run side businesses.
We have time for self care, time coffee with friends, time to take a meal to the new mom down the street with a new baby. We have time to visit aging relatives; time to play with and cuddle with our kids.
My life as a busy housewife isn’t perfect. It’s messy and busy, and my mental load is so heavy some days. But I am incredibly blessed to be able to call it my job.
Life is messy, coffee’s always on, and there is always room for a few more at dinner. My days are busy and my heart is full. I am a Modern Housewife.